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Calling all Suffragettes

Suffragette, Sister, I’m sorry we haven’t continued the cause, we thought the cause was about was the right to vote and “equal” rights, it was so much more than that. We didn’t fully see what we should’ve been fighting for, we didn’t see we were being deceived. It wasn’t about us having the same opportunities as men it was about us being free to be a woman.

Free to know ourselves as we haven’t in centuries, know our bodies, understand our cycles and how we are meant to work and create, when we’re meant to rest and when to be productive. Not work in the way a man can. 

It’s about understanding and embracing our life giving bodies fully, not allowing ourselves to birth on our back, instead listening to our birthing wisdom. It’s was not allowing birth to become a masculine process so we no longer trust ourselves, it was about reclaiming a feminine birth using masculine energy when it was needed. We should understand the power of placenta and the power of breast from an early age. We should KNOW our bodies.  We should have been fighting for more research into our female bodies and its needs.

We shouldn’t tolerate lack of studies and research into gynaecology, women’s hormones and women’s health. We shouldn’t be prescribed chemicals for our health, masking problems. We shouldn’t have a market for incontinence pads we should be provided with essential pelvic floor care after birth. We shouldn’t be made to feel we’re “crazy” from hormones or as we age we should hide it. Hide our wisdom, hide the stories our body tells.  

We should be in tune with our true selves, we deserve respect for the powerful beings we are, no one else can create life the way a woman can. We have forgotten that we have the most important job of all, we are tied to creation, whether we are a mother or not we are creators, we are connected to Mother Earth – yet we have turned our back on her too. We lost sight of our mother and our home to pursue a masculine dream of MORE, more things, more stuff, more ego, more more more…. believing it’ll make us successful, believing we need to keep reaching one goal then the next then the next, losing our mindfulness, losing our peace. Losing human connections to connect with an object, a game, a tv, a car, objects galore. This is what we’ve been led to believe we need. Yet to believe all this is keep us in our place. The irony. 

The disconnection from each other divides us further keeping the powerful powerful til they get to this point when they control our bodies! A woman’s body is her right, her right to choose what happens to it.

We shouldn’t be letting men in power decide what happens to a woman’s body, we should have autonomy over our bodies, we should be in a better place now. Yet we are heading for destruction, losing control of what rightfully belongs to us if we no longer take action. Had we continued moving forward in the right way we wouldn’t have to be lifting the lid on truths forgotten, we wouldn’t have to put up with this new level of oppression for women.

I’m so angry we have a culture designed to make us feel inadequate and not good enough, a culture that makes us feel we always need more, that we need to compare, that we need to compete, that we need to focus on ourselves and not our community that we are divided. We are so divided we can’t come together, we either bury our heads in the sand waiting for someone else to resolve the issues we have or we do nothing at all except talk about how outrageous it is.  This is what they want, those in power, a disjointed barely causing a stir hum in the background. Back to our job, our homes and our kids we go.

Our men. Our men need to understand what we’re up against, but they are not from a place of repression and fear. It’s hard for them to understand our anger and why we need to act. Yet they will understand when the balance is equal, they will see then how they’ve been living half a life, backed into a corner of expectation and made to hide their needs.

I barely scratch the surface at the inequalities between men and women, some I can’t even fathom that are happening ingrained in cultures here and around the world.  Women need to stand together – you are all my sisters and it breaks my heart when you don’t see it. We should be uniting. We should be linking arms, shoulder to shoulder.  We should be chaining ourselves to railings. What are we to do to? I despair.

Women are goddesses! Women bring balance, harmony and life! Are we forgetting life, life to projects, life to art, life to music? Women mother their families, their pets, their friends. Every woman is a mother. Every woman deserves to know and feel her strength and power. Why do we continue to not see it or let people take it away?

It’s about respect for ourselves. It’s about no longer believing the bullshit we are the weaker sex. We are NOT the weaker sex so let’s stop playing victim, let’s stand up for ourselves, let know ourselves better. You don’t know how powerful you are sister! You have no clue because the truth has been hidden, from you, from me for too long. The veil has lifted and we start to see glimpses. It may make you uncomfortable at first but keep looking, keep moving towards your true power. 

Before it’s too late.

There is no equality. You’re deceived. I get you don’t want to be angry, I get this might make you uncomfortable. I get that you’ve a lot going on in your life. I get that you’re smart and don’t like to think of yourself as being manipulated. It makes my blood boil to think of the many manipulations I uncover. Without anger there would be no action. Without action there will be no change. 

Listen up! Wake up!

It’s all very well saying we’re not happy, things need to change but sisters what are WE going to do?

Xx

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Feminism

Feminism.

I’ve been one for years and now it actually means so much more as I expand my knowledge around women’s roots which have been forgotten. Birth is a good place to start learning what we’ve forgotten, understanding how perfectly designed we are. Like all of nature.

Feminism then, to me is about women rising out of their current state and into the role we are meant to have as women. Living in a society that compliments men and women rather than the current bias we have in the favour of masculine. For example women should be able to birth in their own space, in their own time if all is well. They should be able to trust their instincts and be heard!

Women are meant to be nurturing, strong, intuitive, powerful beings yet over many many many years we have closed off to ourselves due to conditioning, fear, vulnerability – men misunderstanding us and our qualities and gifts.

I am a mother of two young boys. I would like them to celebrate the diversity of men, women and most of all see us each all as individuals. I don’t want them to be hated for being men. I don’t want them to reject aspects of their feminine creative energy, I want them to be comfortable in themselves without feeling there are masculine roles they have to play.

Women should be free to be whatever we want without limits. That may mean they can dress how they want, they shouldn’t feel vulnerable at night, they should feel safe they should feel like an object that’ll be critiqued. Our intelligence is celebrated not our waist size. Women shouldn’t have to work two additional months to earn the same salary as a man.

I feel for some of our men too. There are so many pressures on men in our current world. They have to “man up” that phrase does piss me off a bit, I’ve used it myself but it’s not right is it? Basically ignore what your feeling and get in with it anyway. Bury that stuff deep and do something or buy something to help you forget about this thing you don’t like.

Anyway, feminism, if you think it doesn’t affect you it does. I believe that together we can change the way society is for the happiness of our children. For future generations. If only we could stop all trying to be heard over all this noise and invest time stepping into who we are, who are we authentically without all the social, patriarchal, media driven information we’re fed every single day.

Gently each woman can find her way back to her roots again, this is what we need to do for ourselves.

If we can all do this, men and women, we won’t have a them and us. We will see through the crap and will start looking within. We will connect again more fully with the people around us and our communities. We will see the person not the job, house, car, clothes or possessions. There’s a lot of shallow stuff there, I’m not judging that’s the system we caught in, but we can learn so much more from each other if we look beyond all that. If we’re brave enough.

Human connection is what we need above all, with the masks and illusions aside.

Xx

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How Pregnancy Yoga helps you connect with your baby

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Pregnancy yoga

Why join a pregnancy yoga class? There are some obvious benefits…

  • It helps you stay fit and healthy in a gentle way during pregnancy
  • Helps you enjoy time just for you and your baby to relax and connect with other pregnant women
  • The movements help you feel more comfortable in pregnancy and will play a part in an active birth
  • Then there’s the connection

But how…

Connection with your body, connection between your body and mind, connection with your body mind and breath, AND connection with your baby.

It’s taking the time to understanding your body, appreciating how amazing it is and how every breath you are taking is keeping your baby filled with healthy nutrients, oxygen, noticing how you are giving and creating life… to this wonderful being growing within you.

Visualisation of your baby during classes, taking that time, those precious moments in your busy week to be still, or just notice and FEEL how YOU are changing and how YOUR life is evolving, being aware of the subtle yet strong connection between you and your baby.  It’s a special time and you deserve to immerse yourself in it.  A relaxing Pregnancy Yoga class is time when you can appreciate the miracle that is YOU being your unborn baby’s universe, establishing the connection now that is the start of your relationship.  Perhaps the start of you connecting with your feminine energy and the understated yet ever present gentle power you have?

The adjustment into motherhood can feel a bit like being hit by a bus, did I warn you how honest I am?! Some may take it in their stride, however, in my experience, especially as a first time mum it can be a real test of our metal.  What can help ease us into motherhood is that growing awareness, the pause in between the crazy busy lives we lead, the arrival of our baby can help us tune into our maternal instincts more acutely, it can help ease our way into an adjustment of mindset and an adjustment of how our bodies are changing, softening and preparing for our babies needs.

All of this helps us to connect with our unborn baby.  So when the time comes, we’re less like a rabbit in headlights, we’ve learnt to appreciate the simple moments, learnt to marvel at how incredible our bodies are, how incredible you are and know that making time for you ultimately will help you and your baby when they’re earth side.

Time focused just on you and your baby is nurturing you both.  Preganancy Yoga is an experience you’re enjoying together that provides benefits for you both now and in those early days and weeks.  Savouring your pregnancy, the blessing of what bringing a new life into the world means… or perhaps allowing yourself time to reflect, allowing yourself to let out tension you might be feeling, the time invested in connecting with other women on a similar path to you at this time in your life, learning to listen to your body and the adjustments you need to make for your baby, THIS is how pregnancy yoga can help you connect with your baby.

It is precious time in pregnancy you won’t get back.  It’s a special time to bond before your baby is even in your arms, soak it up…

Much love

Clare

xx

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Let’s talk balls… pregnancy and balls!

How’s that for a headline?!

So I’m not actually as crude as to talk about balls of the “other” variety and to be honest I’m far too English to say this out loud without blushing!

This is about why you need a birthing ball in your life when you’re pregnant.

They are wonderful inventions for pregnancy and birth and I’m going to share with you some of the ways you’ll benefit from using one.

  • Sit on it! It takes the pressure off your back and makes you sit upright with your core engaged,  good posture is essential to help your baby get into optimal position and to reduce the chances of pelvic girdle pain (SPD). 
  • You can practice pelvic tilts as you rock back and fourth
  • You can bounce on it.
  • You can sit with your feet flat and still and rotate your hips, this helps with hip mobility, toning your uterus and in birth “rotate to dilate!”
  • You can use it to lean on when on all fours/ on your knees (My fave thing when watching TV and pregnant! All part of my plan to ensure my baby had the best chance to get into optimal position i.e head down and not breach or back to back!) This is softly supporting you whilst making the best use of gravity to create space for your baby and in labour the semi upright position will allow you to use gravity to help your baby move down….
  • You can use the ball to practice squats against the wall in pregnancy  helping you tone aiding your pelvis mobility. Perhaps in labour too if your instinct are telling you to squat.
  • You can use it during birth as a prop to sit on, perhaps whilst receiving light touch massage from someone behind you.  You can lean on it in an all fours type position, or kneeling in an upright childs pose.
  •  It will keep you active and moving and making use of gravity.  All of which is enabling you and your baby.

The ball is a bit of magic….  pregnancy bliss in fact so get one, sit on it, move on it, get comfortable with it and help it get you comfortable!

Golden rules for a pregnancy ball and for sitting in general when your pregnant…

  • Ensure your ball is pumped up enough so that your hips are higher than your knees!  This creates more space for your bump and baby, encouraging your baby to move into an optimal position and should be more comfortable as your bump becomes bigger.
  • If you feel a little wobbly on a pregnancy ball, whilst you get used to it, roll up a towel and place it around the base to prevent the ball from moving 😉

You can also use your ball postnatal too, perhaps days after the birth if you’re a little sore and beyond that to help with you core.  My small boys love them too!

That’s all for now folks!  Enjoy.

Clare

xx

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Pregnant? Your priority is NOT your nursery furniture…

Why more people should rethink their priorities, this may be a bitter pill to swallow….

Shopping for baby goods is NOT a priority. None of that stuff really matters!

Taking care of YOU in pregnancy, preparing for a positive birth experience and the fourth trimester.  This should be the priority.

Mothers come first!

Xx

Why more people should rethink their priorities, this may be a bitter pill to swallow….Shopping for baby goods is NOT a priority. None of that stuff really matters!Taking care of you in pregnancy, preparing for a positive birth experience and the fourth trimester. This should be the priority.Mothers come first!Xx#babybizviz

Gepostet von Clare Curtis – Pre and Postnatal Wellbeing am Mittwoch, 1. November 2017